Wednesday, December 12, 2007

No Rush

So there's this singer who I love, Josh Turner, and he has a song called No Rush. He's basically talking to his girlfriend about how they should just take things slow. One of the lines says "Ain't this world turnin baby, fast enough". In the United States, and especially in New York, we do everything in a hurry. We need an answer now, we need a decision now, we need this to work now. I'm guilty of it too. But we've let this mentality seep into every aspect of our lives including some of the most important decisions we'll ever make, like who we're gonna marry. If you understand marriage, and take it seriously, then it's kind of a big deal. You are stuck with this person for life. So shouldn't you take some time to think about it and make sure you're choosing the right person? My mom always told me "18 months". You should date for at least 18 months before getting married. Because this gives you time to get to know this person and make sure you'll be able to live with them. I saw a marriage fall apart because the people involved didn't take the time to see if it could really work, and a lot of people were hurt when things ended.
I was talking to Mr.Lemieux the other day and he said to me "Promise me that you won't get married freshman or sophomore year in college". Cuz alot of people rush into marriage and then realize that they don't actually like each other.
You have to take some time to get to know yourself before you try to give yourself to another person. Enjoy the single life for a while. Travel the world. Write a book. Start a blog. Whatever. You have your whole life to be married, you have only a few precious years to be single. Enjoy them. Then, once you've gotten to know who you are, start learning who someone else is. Only then should you get married.

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