Wednesday, July 9, 2008

Ever Ever After

"Let's just admit we all want to make it to ever ever after"

Fifty years ago divorce was a rarity. When it did occur it was considered a scandal. Now divorce is commonplace, with nearly 50% of marriages ending in divorce. It would seem that with such statistics society would have become desensitized to divorce and accepted that marriage can not last a lifetime. However, all around us people are asking "can't two people stay in love forever?"

In the movie Juno the title character says "I just need to know if it's possible for two people to stay happy together forever." Far from desensitizing us divorce has made society long for and appreciate life long marriages.

What making divorce so commonplace has done is allowed us to get lazy in our relationships. Though everyone wants their marriage to last forever very few are willing to actually work at it. When divorce was a scandal couples would work to make their marriage last and would try every other option before even considering divorce. Now with divorce considered normal many couples will run to their lawyer at the first sign of trouble rather than attempting to work through the problem.

Marriage is about dying to self. Each and every day you are supposed to make small sacrifices for your spouse. And then, when it comes time to make big sacrifices, you find it's not that hard.

"Let me ask you something. If someone prays for patience, you think God gives them patience? Or does He give them the opportunity to be patient? If he prayed for courage, does God give him courage, or does He give him opportunities to be courageous? If someone prayed for their family to be closer, do you think God zaps them with warm fuzzy feelings, or does He give them opportunities to love each other?"

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